Long Live The King
A Few Excerpts from the book I am Reading Titled “Eat Pray Love”
I hope you love them as much as I love this book.
“Moreover, I have boundary issues with men. Or maybe thats not fair to say. To have issues with boundaries, one must have boundaries in the first place, right? But I dissappear into the person I love. I am the permeable membrane. If I love you, you can have everything. You can have my time, my devotion, my ass, my money, my family, my dog, my dogs money, my dogs time-everything. If I love you, I will carry for you all your pain, I will assume for you all your debts (in every definition of the word), I will protect you from your own insecurity, I will project upon you all sorts of good qualities that you have never actually cultivated in yourself and I will buy christmas presents for your whole family. I will give you the sun and the rain and if they are not avalable, I will give you a sun check and a rain check. I will give you all this and more, until I get so exausted and depleted that the only way I can recover my energy is by becoming infatuated with someone else”
“we were talking the other evening about the phrases one uses when trying to comfor someone in distress. I told him that in English we sometimes say, “I’ve been there.” This was unclear to him at first-”I’ve been where?” But I explained that deep greif sometimes is almost like a specific location, a coodinate on a map of time. When you are standing in that forest of sorrow, you cannot imagine that you could ever find your way to a better place. But if someone can assure you that they themselves have stood in that same place, and now have moved on, sometimes this will bring hope.
“So sadness is a place?” Giovanni asked.
“Sometimes people live there for years.” I said.
In return, Giovanni told me that empathizing Italians say “L’ho provato sulla mia pelle“, which means “I have experenced that on my own skin” Meaning, I have also been burned or scarred in this way, and I know exactly what you have been going though.”
more later.
-avaX
